Tony Carroll (psychotherapist)

Carroll was raised in a small town in Arkansas by a religious family and later studied music at Hendrix College, where he began to question his sexuality. He discovered the book The Sixth Man by Jess Stearn, which suggested to Carroll that communities of productive gay people actually existed, causing him to question the prevailing attitudes about homosexual people. During his junior year of undergraduate school, he was engaged to a female vocalist in a trio for which he was the keyboardist. However, she broke off their engagement because she believed he was in love with the third member of the trio, a male vocalist, rather than her. This became Carroll's first gay relationship, and it lasted eight years, despite tremendous opposition from the parents on both sides.[1]

In August 1968, Carroll took a choral department job in Houston and settled in the Neartown area of Houston. He later decided to abandon music in favor of pursuing a degree in social work, so he began to research long-term gay couples in graduate school at the University of Houston. He described the motivating force behind this decision as deriving from his "20 years in the chair" himself: he had difficulties finding therapists willing to work with a gay patient and later, gay couples, so he decided to help the gay community through this venue.[1]

Carroll first met Dr. Bruce W. Smith, a Houston-area dentist, at a Log Cabin Republican Convention in 1995.[1] In 2003, they were married [2] in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Carroll has said that although the marriage is not valid in the United States, he and his husband felt it was important to them to have their marriage recognized,[3] and that it was an "amazing" and "emotional" experience.[1] Carroll believed that religion's stronghold on America's politics and society is the main reason the US has not granted homosexuals the right to marry, while Canada and other countries have. He did believe, however, that the US would legalize gay marriage, and that people are infinitely more accepting of gays now than they were.[1]

Carroll and Smith continually presented themselves as a publicly gay couple because they believed that it provides a role model for others in the gay community. They claimed that their image as a professional gay couple is one of their greatest accomplishments to Houston's gay community.[1] Their friends affectionately have called them "Dental and Mental" [4] because their practices are located in the same building.[2]

Carroll was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LSCW), and did run his own practice since the 1980s. He was also a certified Imago relationship therapist,[5] although he did not practice the teachings of this theory.[1] Most recently, his psychotherapy practice was devoted to adults in both individual and couples, so although he had particular interest in working with the GLBT individuals and couples, his practice also included a large number of straight clients. He treated many people with concerns about anxiety, depression, mood disturbances, intimacy, relationships, grief and loss, mid-life, sexuality, self-esteem, growth, and couples' issues.[4] He was voted Best Mental Health Therapist for the years 2003-2009 by Houston's OutSmart magazine.[2] Carroll co-founded the Psychotherapy Resource Group, a training group for mental health professionals. He also taught the medical staff of several hospitals and organizations in how to deal with emotional crises in the hospital.[5] He was the first openly gay president of Texas Society for Clinical Social Work [1] and a diplomat of the International Congress for the Advancement of Private Practice.[4]

He was active not only as a therapist but also for Houston's GLBT community. He said that "most gay people know very early on that they are different and that they need to hide those differences. Remaining closeted and hiding the truth from the world becomes self defeating behavior, and invisibility makes it easier to perpetuate myths about gay people".[6] Therefore, he worked with the gay community to help them learn to accept themselves for who they are through his therapy sessions.[1]

In 1983, Carroll conducted a study on stability in gay relationships, one of the first in America at the time. AIDS became a topic of national concern in the early 1980s, creating social stigma against anyone who identified with the gay community.[7] By sending out an ad through the magazine This Week in Texas, he found forty homosexual couples from Houston who had been together a minimum of six years. Though he never published his research, it showed that homosexual relationships were just as stable as heterosexual relationships, despite the stereotype that homosexuals cannot have stable relationships. He also studied the integrated-ness of gay couples in the wider community, and found that these well-established couples tended not to interact with the inner-city bar scene, but instead referred to their heterosexual neighbors as their closest friends.

• LGBT rights in Texas

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