Violet Oaklander

Oaklander was born Violet Solomon on April 18, 1927 in Lowell, MA to a Jewish Russian immigrant family. She grew up in Cambridge, MA, with her parents Joe and Mollie Solomon and her two older brothers.[2]

As a five-year-old child, Oaklander sustained a burn to a large part of her torso, arms, and legs in a home accident, in which a family friend spilled a large pot of boiling cabbage and water on her.[2] Oaklander has stated in interviews that the suffering and trauma she sustained in the hospital while being treated for this burn was the spark that ignited her interest in working with children.[2][3] About this childhood injury, Oaklander has said, “It could be the beginning of why I do this work...Everything I’ve ever worked on, especially with my Gestalt therapy training...always went back to that burn...”[2]

Oaklander's unique approach to working with children, which combines Gestalt Therapy theory, philosophy, and practice with a variety of expressive techniques, has won international recognition.[1][2] Oaklander holds a lifetime achievement award from the Association of Play Therapy, U.S., and has received numerous other awards for her contribution to the mental health field.[1] In February 2012, Oaklander was honored and awarded by the Edna Reiss-Sophie Greenberg Chair at the Reiss-Davis Child Study Center in Los Angeles.[4]

For 27 years, Oaklander conducted a highly successful two-week training program in California which was attended by participants from all over the world.[2] In addition, Oaklander was a regular instructor for many years with the extension programs of the University of California campuses in Santa Cruz, Santa Barbara, and San Diego, and the Pacifica Graduate Institute.[1]

While she was teaching a class at Chapman University in the mid 1970s titled, “Counseling with Children," Oaklander wrote a paper about her work approach that later turned out to be the outline for her now renowned book, Windows to Our Children: A Gestalt Therapy Approach to Children and Adolescents.[3] Also during this time, Oaklander was leading workshops around Los Angeles and Orange Counties. The participants often asked for more written information, which gave Oaklander the idea to turn her class paper into a book.[3] Ultimately, Oaklander completed the early version of Windows as her PhD dissertation while attending International College in 1978.[1] The first edition of Windows was first published by Real People Press, San Diego, in 1978.[3] and later by The Gestalt Journal Press.

About Windows, Gestalt therapist Edwin C. Nevis wrote, “[O]ne book, Windows to Our Children: A Gestalt Therapy Approach to Children and Adolescents (1978), has inspired child therapists all over the world and promulgated the Gestalt approach internationally...Since its publication in 1978, many professionals have become interested in Gestalt therapy through reading her book and attending her trainings. Windows is a classic in the field of child psychotherapy, and read studiously by therapists and students of all theoretical persuasions.”[7] Psychotherapist Christiane Elsbree wrote, “Those who have trained with Violet know that she says, ‘I don't fix kids.’ Yet her delight in each child, her 'I- Thou' approach, supports the child's growth through facilitated contact and awareness, helping children find who they are and their own rightful path, their emergent path, their own organismic self-regulation and well-being... Over the course of twenty-six years, her two-week training programs in Santa Barbara and Hermosa Beach brought together therapists and counselors from more than twenty-five countries and six continents to form an intensive learning community... The interest in Violet's work brings to light the widespread interest in the theory and practice of Gestalt therapy and what it has to offer world-wide in the field of health and well-being.”[3]

Windows has been published in 15 languages, including Chinese, Croatian, Czechoslovakian, French, German, Hebrew, Italian, Korean, Lithuanian, Portuguese, Romanian, Russian, Serbo-Croatian, and Spanish.[1]

Oaklander's method of incorporating Gestalt therapy into play therapy for children and adolescents became known as the "Oaklander Model."[3] About her technique, Oaklander has said, “It's a way of talking about things that is very safe, and then gradually bringing it back to [the children], where they can own their feelings. We use all these techniques to give [children and adolescents] experience with parts of themselves that they no longer own or experience. We might do a lot of sensory work, even with adolescents, in order to help them get back in touch with their senses–the touching, and looking, and listening, and tasting, and smelling–and to feel their senses, which is an integral part of the organism, the senses.”[3]

The Oaklander model applies Gestalt therapy principles into therapeutic work with children and adolescents, with the goal of bringing back to children the aspects of themselves that they have lost.[9] According to the Oaklander Model, as a child's sense of internal support increases, their ability to express their emotions also increases.[3] Children “become more whole” as they become more aware of their emotions, and the creative and projective techniques found in Gestalt play therapy are essential in making this happen.[3] Oaklander has written, “Anger is the hardest emotion for anyone, and especially for children, to deal with. It undoubtedly is the root for a lot of their problems. Normalizing and working through angry feelings to attain a calmer state of being is an important aspect of the healing process.”[9]

Oaklander believes that the authentic relationship between the therapist and client is the key agent in the therapeutic process, and that without it, no real work can happen.[9] The therapist and the child are two individuals who enter into a non-hierarchical relationship as equals and remain open to what the encounter may bring.[9] The therapist doesn't enter the relationship as an expert, but just as their authentic, genuine self which encourages the client to do the same.[9]

Oaklander has also stated that applying Gestalt therapy principles helps children become whole again because Gestalt therapy “enhances the self.”[6] Oaklander has said that most of her child patients did not feel good about themselves, and didn't know themselves.[6] Therefore, the child being able to say, “This is what I like, this is what I don't like, this is how I get mad,” helps the child to feel strong and more sure within themselves.[6] In addition, Oaklander believes that the Gestalt therapy concept of “the present moment” is how the child relates to the therapist, because children do not say, “I really need to deal with my past abuse.”[6] Oaklander has said, “Trauma from the past becomes part of the present, so when we can bring them out [with the child] and look at them, that is what makes a difference.”[6] Further, Oaklander has stated, “Gestalt therapy is about helping people become aware of what they do and how they do it, and to encourage living in the present, to ‘be here now,’ and to help make better choices. Children live in the present more than adults. But rather than becoming ‘aware’ of what they do, it's a matter of providing the experience for them to understand how they operate in the world. We do it through art and medium. We provide experiments for the child to experience parts of themselves that they had cut away or lost.”[10]

In his book entitled, Windowframes: Learning the Art of Gestalt Play Therapy the Oaklander Way, (2006), Lewis & Clark Graduate School of Education and Counseling professor, Peter Mortola,[11] documents his consistent approach to therapy using the Oaklander Model, and identifies a set of therapeutic experiences involving different media, including drawings, clay, sand trays, and puppets, and then shows how each of these therapeutic experiences share a similar underlying structure.[12] In this way, the Oaklander Model engages the child in a playful activity that often reflects very real issues and aspects from the child's own life.[12]

Critics of Oaklander's method of working Gestalt therapy techniques and principles into play therapy with children and adolescents say that Gestalt therapy should not be used with children, because Gestalt therapy works primarily with the ego, and children do not have fully developed egos.[3] In response, Oaklander has stated, “I strongly believe that Gestalt therapy is so organic that it stands to reason that it fits the development of children. As Fritz Perls used to say, ‘Lose your mind and come to your senses.’ The child's expression of emotions and the intellectual development of the child, it's all so organic and it's all basic to Gestalt therapy. So to me, how could it not be? Even with adults, it begins in childhood. You don't suddenly block your ability to express emotions as an adult. It starts way back. So, it seems to me that it is very essential and organic and obvious that the development of the child is much akin to Gestalt therapy.”[3]

Oaklander's legacy is now being sustained and promoted by the Violet Solomon Oaklander Foundation, a non-profit corporation created to further the work of Dr. Violet Oaklander.[1] The Foundation was founded in 2003, when approximately twenty of Oaklander's family members and long-time colleagues met to discuss various ways of carrying on Oaklander's work after her retirement.[1] The founding members have worked with Oaklander to launch the VSOF website, develop training materials and programs, publish a quarterly newsletter, create an archive library, network with professionals in multiple countries, and develop a scholarship program to provide training in the Oaklander Model for those in need of assistance.[1]  

The first Violet Solomon Oaklander Foundation conference took place in November 2011 in Malibu, California, and featured presentations by a number of founding members and other guest presenters regarding the application and further development of the Oaklander method.[1] Since then, three additional conferences have been held.[1]

Oaklander is retired and lives in Los Angeles with her family and her cat Maydeleh. She remains an active member of the Violet Solomon Oaklander Foundation which works to further and preserve her work.[1]

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