Big Girls Don't Cry (The Sopranos)

• James Gandolfini as Tony Soprano
• Lorraine Bracco as Dr. Jennifer Melfi
• Edie Falco as Carmela Soprano
• Michael Imperioli as Christopher Moltisanti
• Dominic Chianese as Corrado Soprano, Jr.
• Vincent Pastore as Pussy Bonpensiero
• Steven Van Zandt as Silvio Dante
• Tony Sirico as Paulie Gualtieri
• Robert Iler as Anthony Soprano, Jr.
• Jamie-Lynn Sigler as Meadow Soprano *
• Drea de Matteo as Adriana La Cerva
• David Proval as Richie Aprile
• Aida Turturro as Janice Soprano
• Nancy Marchand as Livia Soprano *

* = credit only

Adriana is proud of Christopher's screenwriting and enrolls him in an "Acting for Playwrights" course. He is applauded for his acting in an emotional scene in which he plays a son with his father. When a student asks him how he managed to cry he walks out, troubled and embarrassed. In the next class he loses control when playing another scene with the student who played his father. He punches the other student and kicks him as he lies on the floor. That night he throws away everything he has written.

Furio Giunta is now in New Jersey, a soldier with the Soprano crime family. Christopher was making collections from the owner of a tanning salon used to front a brothel, but the payments have been short. Tony sends Furio to intimidate the owner. Furio ruthlessly assaults the girls and the customers, breaks the owner's arm and shoots him in the kneecap, and hits the owner's wife and spits on her.

With Furio's arrival, Tony promotes Paulie and Silvio, and demotes Pussy. Pussy sees this as a betrayal and complains about it to Agent Lipari, who feels he has been passed over in his job as well. Sympathizing with each other, each complains about the declining standards of his organization.

Tony is becoming short-tempered and violent and is inflamed when he learns that Janice is using their mother's house as security for a loan. He goes to the house early one morning to confront her. He is taken aback when the door is opened by Richie, who says that he and Janice have revived the relationship they had many years ago. Tony says that their relationship was like Israel and Palestine. He leaves, saying with disgust, "She's your fucking problem now."

Tony visits Hesh Rabkin, seeking the comfort and guidance from him that he is not getting from Dr. Melfi. Hesh is sympathetic, and tells Tony that Tony's father also had panic attacks. Hesh gets bored listening to Tony and rambles on about his own experiences.

Dr Melfi consults Dr. Kupferberg, and tries to understand her feelings about her gangster patient. Eventually she decides to resume treating Tony. At their first session, while questions are being asked and answered, it seems they cannot stop smiling at each other.

• The episode's title is taken from the name of a song by Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons, which can be heard in the background during the restaurant scene in the episode. Valli would later have a role on the series as Rusty Millio.

• The song played in the background of Artie's restaurant is the titular song of the episode, "Big Girls Don't Cry" by Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons.
• The song playing when Christopher enters the massage parlor is "Touch It" by Monifah.
• The song from Dr. Melfi's dream about Tony Soprano is "Optimistic Voices", a selection from the 1939 film classic, The Wizard of Oz.
• The song played during Furio's party is "Rock the Boat" by The Hues Corporation.
• The song played over the end credits is "White Mustang II" by Daniel Lanois.

Listed in order of first appearance:[1]

• Kearny, New Jersey
• Lou Costello Memorial in Paterson, New Jersey
• Long Island City, Queens
• Verona, New Jersey
• Glen Head, New York
• Great Kills, Staten Island

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